Sleep Masturbation Common NOT Sleep Sex

Sleep Masturbation, Normal?

Sleep Masturbation Vs Sleep Sex

Sleep Masturbation Common NOT Sleep Sex

2016-02-21  3:23:32 PM

As a sexsomniac I contend that Sleep Masturbation Common NOT Sleep sex.  Well, as far as we know masturbation is far more common than sexsomnia aka sleep sex.  In the article “Sexsomnia recognized as natural, common”  written below by Dr. Debby Herbenick it seems some clarification of this point is needed.    This is a question of whether one remembers it happening or not… 

Thank you Dr. Debby Herbenick for your time, for writing this article, and your previous article about sleep masturbation. (Click Here)  To be fair, as a true sexsomniac, this article takes me aback a bit…  Sleep Masturbation Common NOT Sleep Sex

Dr. Debby Herbenick is talking about about this guy being lucid or semi lucid while sleep masturbating.  Sure, we can all relate to this poor guy not wanting to perform sexual acts then doing so seemingly against his will.  But, how many of us honestly remember anything happening?  It seems all the research completed thus far clearly indicates that someone suffering from sexsomnia has literally NO MEMORY of what happened.  

Here’s the issues with the idea of “lucid” sleep masturbation being termed as a lighter form of sexsomnia.  First off, someone with sexsomnia aka sleep sex not only doesn’t realize what’s going on additionally the sexsomniac doesn’t know it ever happened!  Again, Sleep Masturbation Common NOT Sleep Sex

Honestly, I’ve read other articles by Dr. Debby Herbenick and found them to be great content full of interesting views.  In this case, I simply believe she missed the mark.  One cannot compare “lucid” sleep masturbation to sexsomnia aka sleep sex!  

This goes to show the great challenges we sexsomniacs truly face even in within the sexual health medical community.  

Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t an indictment or a rant against Dr. Debby Herbenick.  Simply venting frustration over this article with you.  What do you think?  Am I off base here?  

Can’t we as a community of true sexsomniacs do better to increase sexsomnia awareness?  If you believe we can, you’re right… One like and one share of these posts at a time.  

Tell us how you feel about Sleep Masturbation Common NOT Sleep Sex in the comments section below.  

Here’s the original post by Debby Herbenick, Ph.D

Sexsomnia recognized as natural, common
By Kinsey Confidential
Published 09/01/15 12:00am
Updated 09/01/15 12:01am

Kinsey Confidential is a service of the Kinsey Institute and the IU School of Public Health. For more good sex information, podcasts or to submit a question, visit us online at kinseyconfidential.org.

I’d like to know whether you’ve heard of cases where a lucid person masturbates during their sleep. I believe I am one such person. Normally I can control and stop myself as soon as I become conscious of the rhythmic movement of my body, but last night I could not. I masturbated twice — aware of what I was doing but not conscious enough to stop myself. Masturbation is against my principles. I am a 29-year-old single male who engages in sleep masturbation in times of stress. I don’t masturbate consciously anymore, and when I do it during the night I wake up enough to stop myself so I don’t ejaculate, but last night I went all the way without a single thought of stopping. I was lucid but not fully conscious. All the accounts I’ve read say people who masturbate in their sleep have no recollection the next morning. What do you think?

Great question! There’s more than one way that masturbation happens during sleep.
In recent years, the scientific and medical research has paid more attention to sleepsex — also called sexsomnia — which is when people engage in masturbation or partnered sex while they are sleeping even though they don’t have any memory of it the next day.

These events are often connected to a sleep disorder and are best addressed by a sleep specialist. Sexsomnia is pretty rare but has been increasingly recognized and written about. Maybe that’s why you have read so much about that kind of sleep masturbation in your search for more 
information.

The second kind of sleep masturbation is exactly as you described, and it is very common.

This is when a man or woman is fast asleep and wakes up — either a little or a lot — to find they are rubbing their genitals against the bed or even using their hands or fingers to masturbate.

Some people stop themselves. Others allow themselves to continue masturbating, possibly even to orgasm. Pioneering sex research Alfred Kinsey and his colleagues, who interviewed people in the 1930s, 1940s and 1950s about their sexual lives, found it was quite common for both men and women to experience orgasms while sleeping.

More recently, in my own scientific research that involves surveying thousands of Americans about their sexual lives, my colleagues and I have found most Americans have experienced orgasms while sleeping.

You’re right: this kind of sleep masturbation or orgasm is generally recognized by the person doing it. They may be somewhat groggy or still half asleep, but they are lucid enough to know what is happening.

Although there is nothing wrong with masturbation, and it’s a completely healthy and common behavior for people of all genders, some people — like you — have their own reasons for wanting to abstain from masturbation. That’s a perfectly fine choice.

However, your body may occasionally have other plans and perhaps you can find a way to make peace with that — choosing not to masturbate during waking hours, for example, but trying not to be so hard on yourself should you wind up doing so while sleeping.

Increasingly, scientific research suggests ejaculation is healthy for men, and frequent ejaculation during early adulthood may even be linked to a lower risk of prostate problems later in life, though the research is a little unclear at this point.

It may be there are benefits to ejaculation and a biological drive to do so.

If you find yourself feeling particularly guilty or ashamed about your masturbation, or if you’d like other support or advice related to your sexuality, it may help to meet with a sex therapist. You can find one through the Society for Sex Therapy and Research at sstarnet.org.

Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., is an associate professor at IU’s School of Public Health and a research fellow and sexual health educator at the Kinsey Institute. She’s the author of six books about sex. Her newest is “The Coregasm Workout.” Follow Kinsey Confidential on Twitter @KinseyCon and visit us online at 
www.kinseyconfidential.org.

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4 Responses to Sleep Masturbation Common NOT Sleep Sex

  1. Desira says:

    Hello, im not a suffer of sexsomina, however my husband is. His problem started out of no where about 3 months ago, so far it has caused serious issues in our marriage. The first time it happened it was such a big mess, he was masterbating i woke up to it and thought maybe id just go over and try and help, and i was shockingly turned down, at this time we knew nothing about this condition, needless to say i waa extremely upset, but let me keep going, so i caught him masterbating, was turned down, so i was shocked and rdy to pack my bags and leave, i did so, and went into the bathroom to call my friend to bring me my car keys, he got up, stood at the bathroom door, mind you anytime he thought i was going to see him standing there listening, hed go get back in bed, this happened several times, him getting in and out of bed, even smoking ciggerettes, as i had most of mine and my childerns belongings ready to leave, he laying on the bed, opens his eyes and says, youve got to stop staying up all night.. he goes to the bathroom comes out to see that i was leaving and had no idea any what i was talking about, of course. I called him a lier and every other name in the book.. this is where it started, everytime, until recently, its like hes trying to be extremely sneaky about masterbating, i mean he even listen for my breathing to change, where he might think im back asleep, (im usually not) but when i wake him up, obviously im very upset because he not only is doing it right next to me, but being so damn sneaky about it. I even at one point considered maybe he was having some kind of medical issue, like mild seizures because of his alcohol intake, our marriage has went to complete crap since these eposides started, its just so hard to believe someone who seems so fully awake, enough to try and wait until im “back asleep”. Before and even during and still now we have always had an incredible sex life, something we talk highly about as we are both just very sexual people, but the more this contiues the less i want sex, or even feel needed or wanted by him. Not all eposides are the same,but all are very alarming and hurtful to me. We have not seen a dr yet and recently just came across this condition. We could really use any helpful input, and if any other wife’s have went through something more similar to this, mainly where he is being so sneaky and just seems wide awake, i could really use some words of encouragement. We have been together 5 beautiful years and i love this man with everything in me, but im finding myself now, severely depressed, my self-esteem is shot, i feel unwanted.. well i could go on and on. This condition has caused more havoc on our marriage then any cuple should have to go through in a life time.. so please anyone with thoughts or suggestions help.

  2. According to the data from the Toronto Western Hospital, men are more likely to experience sleep sex than women, though both can be affected. Rosenberg also believes sexsomnia might be more common than people realize. “There is shame involved with the disorder, so I believe that it is underreported in the general population,” he says.

  3. Manuel says:

    I suffer from something similar and I’ve been suffering it for a really long time. I masturbate while I am asleep. Sometimes I don’t remember anything, sometimes I’m half asleep and sometimes I wake up just in the middle of it. I know alcohol is a trigger, stress or just when I’m sad… similar triggers as sexomnia. I would think if it is not sexomnia it is very closely related. You speak as if this problem does not matter or is less important, but let me tell you it is as frustrating as sexomnia.
    Years ago I was very desperate and I tried to tied myself to a bed but it did not help much. Sometimes I kind of realise what I am doing but my mind is somewhere else. Sometimes I remember what was going through my mind at the moment and sometimes I do not. It is like a twilight zone…

    • Sexsomnia says:

      Thanks Manuel for your post!

      You’re absolutely right… Sleep masturbation isn’t something to be taken lightly either. My position on this is simple… I’m someone with extreme sexsomnia and feel like I’m being raped anytime this happens. People have stolen things from my home, taken money, and unfortunately I’ve been blackmailed a few times costing 10’s of thousands of dollars. All for a medical condition I have, people have seen the opportunity to take advantage of me. It’s been heartbreaking and that’s why I began this site a few years ago to increase awareness. Hoping by doing so that people, like you, will help increase the awareness by liking, sharing, subscribing. In doing so, one more person reached at a time and over time trusting them medical community will take notice.

      I’ve reached out to all the prominent doctors conducting research and looking for cures of our ailment to no avail. Despite many messages sent and attempting to reach them, none to date have responded. Not sure why.

      What I can say is I will continue scouring the internet for any posts, articles, videos of sexsomnia aka sleepsex and post them on Sexsomniacs Journey so that anyone that shares our misfortunate illness has a single site with all the information available to assist them in understanding more about our disease.

      Thank you Manuel for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us.

      Thanks,
      SexsomniacsJourney

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